How to Give a Blowjob

Whether you use the technical term fellatio or call it a blow job, going down on a man, or giving him head, performing fellatio is an act that requires a lot of trust and a little bit of knowledge. Social messages about fellatio suggest that guys love it so much they don’t care about technique. In reality there is a lot of variation in fellatio skills, and knowing how to read your partner, what to do to him, and when to do it can make all the difference. If you've got the basics down you can read more about advanced fellatio technique.

Time Required: Fellatio can be fast and dirty or slow and seductive, no set time required.

Here's How:

Start him off nice and clean.
Social stigma seems to focus on the taste of women’s genitals more than men’s. In fact men can smell and taste just as strong as women. If you're new to fellatio, you might be worried about taste and smell. If so, suggest a sexy bath or shower together and start with a clean slate. You can also add a bit of flavored personal lubricant to his penis or put on a flavored condom, which is great for safer oral sex.

Physical comfort is key.
You can’t have fun and perform well if you’re not physically comfortable, and fellatio can put a strain on your neck and jaw. Kneeling before him on a pillow, while he’s standing or sitting, gives you good range of motion and plenty of access. If you’ve had bad experiences with fellatio where you felt lack of control, have him on his back and crouch in between his legs. Giving head can put you in a major power position, if you like that feeling then go for it.

Tease him with touch.
Using your hands first, gently caress his inner thighs, penis, testicles, and perineum, paying attention to his reactions (verbal and facial) as you touch certain spots. The most sensitive spot on a guy’s penis is the head (known as the glans), especially the frenulum, an indentation between the glans and the shaft on the underside of the penis. You might want to brush up on your knowledge of male sexual anatomy , to know what you’re working with.

Give him a lick.
Follow up with your tongue, exploring the same terrain using slow wide strokes with your tongue. Don’t be afraid to use lots of saliva, as this natural lube feels great and helps create friction and suction. There are many STDs that can be passed during fellatio, using flavored condoms is a great way to practice safer sex and deal with any taste you may not like. It is also a perfect way to get guys who say they have difficulty with condoms, to gladly put one on.

Take him in your mouth.
When he’s semi-erect, slowly guide your lips over the tip of his penis, making sure your lips cover your teeth as you slide gently down his shaft as far as you’re comfortable. Keep your mouth taut, as the pressure from your lips will feel great as they glide down the penis. Putting him in your mouth before he is fully erect is a good way of getting comfortable with the size of his penis, particularly if he is in the larger range.

Watch the gag reflex.
If you’re not adept at deep throat (taking the whole penis in your mouth), don’t try it or you’ll trigger the gag reflex. It’s not necessary and a similar effect can be achieved with the hand and mouth technique described below. With practice, you can learn to relax your gag reflex and take in more of the penis.

Use your mouth and tongue.
As your head travels up the underside of the penis, flatten your tongue so it gives his frenulum a nice wide, wet stroke. Don’t be afraid to try different types of licks or kisses—the lips feel good when popped over the ridge of the penis—but perform each stroke repeatedly before changing to give consistent pleasure.

Have fun with the foreskin.
If your partner is uncircumcised, insert your tongue into the foreskin and circle around the head with it. You can also use your fingers to gently massage the head through the foreskin, alternating with deep tongue licks.

Using your mouth and hand, tip #1.
A great blow job incorporates both hands and mouth. Place one hand around the shaft of his penis while you move up and down on the top half of his penis. Try coordinating your movements so your hand and mouth are going up and down in unison. If you're partner is thrusting, your hand will prevent his penis from being pushed too far into your mouth.

Using your mouth and hand, tip #2.
If he likes this combination, bring your hand all the way up the shaft (following your mouth), remove your mouth briefly, use your palm to slide and twist over the head (as if you were juicing an orange), and then glide your hand back down followed by your mouth again. Repeat.

Let him come.
When he’s ready to orgasm, keep your movements consistent and firm—don’t slack off. Once he starts ejaculating, see him through with a few strokes and then stop, as most men don’t want continued stimulation once they’ve ejaculated and had an orgasm.

To swallow or not to swallow?
This decision is entirely up to you. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't want to, but it's nice to let your partner know it's nothing personal. If you don't want to swallow, and you aren’t familiar with the signs of imminent ejaculation, let him know you want a warning. Remove your mouth as he's about to ejaculate, and continue hand stroking through his orgasm.

Tips:
Don’t forget the rest of his body. The scrotum and testicles (balls) are particularly sensitive, and most men like them to be stimulated. Try lightly licking or touching his testicles during oral sex. He might also like them to be cradled gently in one of your hands. Some men go wild when you place your hand around the top of the scrotum and gently tug down.

You can also apply pressure to his perineum (the spot between his anus and his penis) with one or two fingers, as this also can feel good.

He might like wearing a butt plug during fellatio for added prostate stimulation. Or you can apply pressure to his anus with one of your fingers.

Think of You

You're lying on my bed, naked against my soon to be sullied crisp white sheets. I’m naked too, on top of you and nibbling on your earlobe. I kiss your lips, your neck, nip your nipples, plant soft lipped smooches all down your abdomen, tongue your belly button, part your legs a little, crouch between them, gently bite your inner thighs, and settle comfortably where I want to be.

I dip my tongue in under your foreskin – just a little tease before I get you to come out to play. With a broad flat tongue I lick the underside of your cock from base to tip. With the back of my tongue I lick your front side. Alternating between the front and back of my tongue, I lick the sides of your cock. I do this again – under, front, side, side – until you've been licked all over like a melting tangle twister, and your head has popped out to see what all the licking’s about.

I tongue your balls with slow broad laps, then carefully suck one of them into my mouth and hold it there. At the same time I grasp the shaft of your dick and work it slowly up and down. I let your ball ease out of my mouth again, and using the tensed tip of my tongue I flick back over your perenium, before travelling up between your balls, tracing a line to the tip of a perfectly erect dick. I circle the head with my tongue. I get a bit juicy, letting my saliva trickle down the shaft. I circle my tongue round and round. I am holding your cock at the base, nice and firm, and circling my tongue, round and around the tip.

I find the sinewy vein on the underside of the head and change from my circling to flick it, butterfly-like, over and over, before easing back into circles. I look up at you. You're watching me – that desperate pleasure face. I love it. It’s so funny, yet so hot. I’m sure you can see me laughing at you with my eyes.

I allow my tongue circles to go deeper, until I have snaked half-way down the shaft and taken your whole head in my mouth. I pull my lips tight over my teeth to make a ridge, and bring my mouth up and down your beauitful cock, working the base with my right hand at the same time. I get into a rhythm. Sometimes I flick or circle the head with my tongue when I get to the top. I can feel your excitement building. But I don’t want that yet.

I slow down. I clasp my fingers, like a cockring, around the base of your dick. I hold just the tip in my mouth and I suck it hard. I know this is intense, so I make sure not to do it for too long, and I vary the strength and rhythm of my sucking. When I figure enough’s enough, I start to flick the head with my tongue again, before lowering my mouth down on your cock like before. I build up a rhythm, but this time, when my mouth gets to the tip I come right off, circle the head of your cock with my palm, before lowering my mouth onto you again. You're starting to make those funny noises, so I slow down a little and revert to my previous mouth and hand technique. I'm not finished with you yet.

With my free hand I pinch the skin between your balls, pull it downwards slightly and massage it gently with my fingers. It’s awful hard to massage in little circles with one hand while you’re wanking up and down with the other. Real pat your head, rub your tummy stuff. But I manage.

You're getting good and grunty again. I look up at you, your mouth is open, and you're in some excruciating reverie. I decide to let you have your release. I speed up on your shaft and tip, while with my massaging hand I stop pinching in order to circle one spit slippery finger around your anus. Your tummy is heaving in short sharp contractions, you're tensed into a half sit-up, I push the tip of my finger into your ass, and you cum, growling loudly. My mouth fills with cum (some of which I swallow, and some of which I spit, as I’ve never been very decisive), while your anus contracts rhythmically around my finger tip. Your noises and contractions reverberate into stillness. It was so fucking hot, I nearly came myself.

Unfortunately, I have killed you. Damn.